I was talking to my private Pilates client today, she has an almost 3 year old girl and a 7 month old boy. Her daughter was more calm overall and a good sleeper, her son loves to nurse every hour and does not nap for more than 20 minutes and wakes up all night as well. She is a stay at home mom and feels like she can let her baby take the lead and its OK. There are so many books, specialists, gadgets in our world, and the bottom line is money, spend, spend, spend! Look at black Friday and cyber Monday, people save up all year to blow it all in the holiday season. I am the other extreme, I really have no desire to shop, I want to get rid of stuff, and I overall feel I have what I need. If there is extra spending money, I usually like to spend it on my kids or a nice dress, but "mall withdrawal," does not apply to me, "retail therapy," does not work for me.
So my client said that our world has such expectations of how to parent, exactly how the baby should eat, sleep, and develop. I think it even starts earlier, in pregnancy, labor, and birth. No matter what medicine discovers, the way of the midwives has always been watchful waiting, and that is really how the process should be looked at. Intervention causes more intervention, and if things don't follow a timetable that does not fit every person, then the medical mentality and philosophy is how to manage it, they go into it with how to fix when something is wrong perspective. I love the approach of the Netherlands, even today. A little blurry, but it was the best scan below from Obstetric Myths Versus Research Realities by Henci Goer.
Lowering our expectations sounds like a very healthy mindset,
Of course have goals, projects, and plans,
On the way there, enjoy every moment, be in the moment,
The video below shows a moment,
A universal moment of parents with children,
With everything happening in our world,
It is so nice to connect to each others humanity,
Coach Yulia
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