My Doula Philosophy

I love to talk, and thanks to blogging, my free flow of thoughts can be put in writing for the world to see.  I love to share my knowledge, but I also love to learn.  My father is one of the smartest people I know, and he is the first one to ask a question, even if it feels weird, he would rather keep learning, and so would I.

I love my world of supporting women in their motherhood journey.  I was teaching a Prenatal Yoga class yesterday, and a first time mom was telling me that I am the first person to tell her to stay home as long as she can handle it, so once she gets to the hospital, she is progressing, and there is no need for intervention.  Even if she chooses an epidural, God Willing the movement is on a roll, while she can take the edge off.  She also was surprised that when she told her friends about staying home, they told her yes that is a good idea.  It is interesting that the first thing people want to tell you about is "their personal experience," which may not have been so positive, and unfortunately put paranoia and worry in the brain of a new mom, who is going to have a completely unique experience of her own.  I always tell moms not to listen to stories, to tell people that their doctor said not to listen.

I recently ran across a few articles that really articulate my own Doula philosophy.  I feel that it is so important to learn as much as you can, put as many tools in your toolbox as possible.  Ultimately in the moment is when it is important to stay present and see what works best, there really is no plan, you are going for the ride of your life, and creating a new life.  The birth plan is good to have an idea of all the options and choices that will be presented, but listening to your gut, trusting your body and baby knows exactly what to do, and experiencing the moment consciously, with support that helps you stay in your zone is the key.


One thing a Doula does is she allows the mom to feel what she is feeling, surrendering to whatever will be will be, feeling safe to voice her choices, and trust the process.

http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/hold-space/

There is not one way, there is no perfect way, each experience is unique, for the mom and for the Doula, I keep learning and being open with each amazing experience.  Also, whatever happens is beautiful, its a new story, and Doula's support the mom to feel good about all of her choices and outcome.

http://taprootdoula.com/2015/03/12/what-with-woman-really-means-2/

This one is so powerful, birth is powerful, not only is a baby born, a mother is born.  Allow yourself to be victorious, ride the waves, orgasmic for some, ecstatic for others.  I wouldn't call my own experience pleasurable, but intense, real, raw, and I wouldn't change a thing.

http://hevria.com/chayalester/no-anesthesia-just-ecstasy/

Enjoy Beautiful Moms,
Even with our 2nd, 3rd, and more babies,
Each one is a new adventure,
Be Present,
Feel Good,
It's a miracle,
Our body is an amazing machine that births and heals,
Coach Yulia