Friday, May 15, 2015

Waiting For Baby

Watchful Waiting is a term used in midwifery, there is no due date, there is no plan, the negative connotation terms are not overused, failure to progress, baby is too big, there is no timer,it is not a preventive management medical approach.  Someone I know is in midwifery training and her post was "waiting for baby," I love that it is from the perspective of the baby, nothing is wrong, let the baby and the body lead the way, what would the baby want to do, let the woman labor, let the body birth, let go.

I have always been a B student by choice, I have been blessed to inherit some good smart genes, but in my aim for balance, have always preferred to make having fun and enjoying life a priority.  Of course if a goal is more focused like medicine, law, or many other career choices, one must dive in head first.  I could not imagine doing one thing, my "thing" has been changing constantly, and I embrace that change.  Some folks want more security, a good paycheck, and they do have a talent and skill where they are grandly contributing to the world.  I prefer a feel your gut, go with the flow, feel open, do what I love mentality, because for me, if it does not fit, I wither, I go dark, I wilt, but I will try it all, and if it does not fit, I easily say goodbye and move on.  With everything except marriage and children of course, that is my old world, Russian Jewish, just deal, unconditional, we are together for life way of being.  Just like any family, you love each other, but there is stuff, and sometimes you don't like each other, that is normal, and all you can do is balance yourself by doing what you love, so when you are with your loved ones, you miss them, you give your all, you are present.  Hats off to stay at home parents, I really admire how you really do it all.

As much as medicine and law fascinate me, and I actually did very well in those classes, I cannot commit myself to filling my brain with just that, and also my energy connection is so pure and present, I don't want anything getting in the way of that.  I love the medical side, and feel proud to work side by side, and the most beautiful thing is happening all around the world.  The medical side is realizing how important the energy side is, they are welcoming, embracing, and suggesting to their clients and especially mothers to learn about homeopathy, Doulas, oils, massage, hypnobirthing, because it all works, it is scientifically proven.

As a Doula, the goal is to support the mom, that is all, but beyond that there is presence, energy, connection, and this quote below can refer to many areas of life, but as a Doula it is exactly what happens.



No matter what the outcome, labor give such benefits to the baby, oxytocin, squeezing the fluid out of the lungs, healthy bacteria for immunity, even if there is a cesarean section, especially if it is scheduled, see if it is OK to labor anyway, you are giving such a gift to the baby.

I had posted recently that in Maryland, they are legalizing home birth, and someone responded that why would someone choose that instead of western medicine, and this was my response.

birth is not a disease, there is no need for intervention, but Thank God the western science exists for emergency only, I labored at home until 8cm water broken with a doula, I wanted to give birth in the hospital with my amazing doctor who did not bother me, I never got any drugs, had my almost 9 pound baby without any complications, the body and the baby know what to do, but to each their own, I am all for choice, it's up to the mother to decide not the government

I am so passionate about what I do,
Education and Information is the key,
Each family can choose their path,
My goal is to present all options,
In the moment, to feel, connect, breathe, and ultimately let go,
Letting go is the challenge in many areas of life,
Even Watchful Waiting, is so intense when labor is intense, and you are so ready for baby,
Stepping off the world is a choice,
For me it is a way of life,
Without it I would not have balance,
So Grateful,
Thank God,
Shabbat Shalom,
Coach Yulia

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