I do not even have a picture of our ice skating venture because it probably didn't last for more than 5 minutes. I think most things out there, including Disney and big shows, are all little too much for kids five and under. I took them both to the circus this summer, it was a two hour super over stimulated intense show with everything you could imagine. I was surprised they sat through it, and they did enjoy it, but it was literally visually exhausting even for me.
So just my five year old boy and I took the metro, which is always the funnest for him, got off in downtown at the ice skating rink, he already looked uncomfortable, so I asked him, should I get the skates or should we just go on the metro, he wanted to get the skates, he even put them on, and got on the ice a couple of times and then came right off, and the final time he got really upset that he almost fell and started to cry, so I said lets go. I kept on telling him how proud I was that he got on the ice, it was all his idea, I think from a TV show, I am not a big fan of ice skating so I would never have thought of it.
It got me thinking about my own childhood and my own sensitivity when others didn't listen or didn't want to play a game my way, yes I always wanted to be the leader :) My mother never put me into dance classes or gymnastics because she knew that it would upset me if I couldn't be the best or perfect, I grew up a perfectly happy child. I do love dance and wish I had more of a background, but I also love just expressing myself in my own way, a performance artist, more than someone with a certain skill. I am a great follow when I have a good lead! Now that strikes me as funny, because I love to lead everywhere else, but a girl likes to feel like a girl in certain areas of life, and that is the right man for us strong, independent women. Someone who is not intimidated, supports, but knows how to make us feel like a woman. Thank God for those rare men, they do exist.
So I tried to put my kids into gymnastics, it was a disaster for my son, he didn't like anything about it, he saw boys doing it, but nothing would entice him to even try it, although our first intro lesson went well, but it was just him and his sister. She was OK, she liked it for a while, but when there were more rules than play, she was over it, my daughter for sure. The one thing my son liked was Karate, but it also took a little bit of nudging and the teacher was amazing. Thank God his teachers in school are so caring yet firm, he is thriving and getting attention, love, and his amazing photographic memory is learning to read and write English and Hebrew. He is the youngest in his class, so I just support, no expectations, just want to instill the love of learning.
I was thinking of the song below, he says accentuate the positive, and eliminate the negative, I do not know if we can eliminate it, but we can find the lesson in it and grow.
Coach Yulia
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