My philosophy everything I do, is take care of YOU or who else will do it for you, and specifically at this point in my life, TAKE CARE OF MAMA.
I was thinking the other day that although I never officially co-slept with the baby, he ends up in our bed a lot, and so did the others and I am OK with it. It all depends, I was never into cribs, loved the bassinet near the bed, then the Pack N Play, until they could walk, then their own bed. I do not want to get out of my bed, if they want me they come to me :) Some people tell me that without a crib their child would never stay in bed, so Thank God they exist, especially the ones that transform in to toddler and even to a full bed. I just felt it was a humongous, unnecessary piece of furniture, that the baby would feel stuck, and even bump their head, which had happened when we visited friends out of town.
So my almost two year old is in his own bed, and because of a million reasons most nights ends up in our bed. Luckily we have a king size bed. He is overall the most mild mannered and happiest baby, and overall has slept well. In September we took away his pacifier, the only time he would cry at night is when it would fall out of his mouth. He is my third and my last, and I was just done with the yuckiness of the pacifier and always losing them. So after that he had to relearn how to sleep without one, plus teething, plus being under the weather, it is just one thing after another.
I had written a few days ago, I just let him express himself, but stay patient and know he will eventually give in. Today I took all the kids to the synagogue, my husband met us later, and it was not a Day of Rest in the least. My daughter was hanging on me, my oldest was overall OK, but wanted to eat, and we got there early because I just wanted to get them out of the house, I think it might have been too early. My baby was just super fussy, after they fed the kids some cholent, a yummy meal we eat every Shabbat, a stew with meat, beans, and potatoes, I decided to just put him to nap. I wanted to sit and eat comfortably, I put him in the stroller, he protested and cried for a while, I rocked him until he just passed out - WIN #1 It was perfect, he woke up right when we started eating we had a place set for him, and he was happy and running around after he ate.
Just now the kids were getting ready for bed, my husband is out for the evening, so I decided they are all going to sleep, I need me time, I deserve it. Baby was so fussy, I let him play for a while in the bed, my daughter fell asleep right away and didn't hear a thing, my son was giggling and amusing himself in his bed. The baby started crying, I told him that I could stay with him or I could leave but he has to go to sleep, he expressed himself, got up and left, then came back, and finally gave in - WIN#2.
He has to learn that some things have no negotiation. We are blessed with two good sleepers that are non stop all day and really need it to function properly and be happy. Yes there is conversation, yes there is letting a child feel they have choices, but some things mommy is just going to win.
I love quiet,
Coach Yulia
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| My first 2 babies, my boy in the back before his 3 year old haircut, his hair was as long as my daughters is now, and hers fist started growing, I cannot even remember her like this, how amazing, time just flies, it all passes and new adventures arise |
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